By Karen Carnabucci, LCSW, TEP
The wheel of life is turning. Summer is transforming into Fall. The wind calls to us, and leaves have begun to drop from the trees. Children return to school. Our lives shift into a different gear.
I could start a conversation about new resolutions for the new season, as we move into the Fall Solstice and the shorter days and longer nights. Instead, I'd like to pose a question. And it's a question that I hope that you will pose to yourselves:
"Are you willing to drop your story?"
Yes, really. Just drop your story and let it fade into the summer. Then turn to fully face this brand time without a story -- and with an openness and a willingness to be surprised.
It's true that there is value in knowing our story and healing that we are able to write a new chapter. However, many of us cling to old stories like they are life-saving preservers when more often they drag us down.
What's a story? Well, they're those tales that seem so agreeable when we repeat them often enough: how the economy is so bad, the weather is so terrible, the opinion you have about your least-favorite political party...
Closer to home, we can get attached to our personal stories -- the thoughtless boyfriend, the noisy neighbor, the distant sibling -- so that it's hard to see anything else.
I continue to notice that the people I work with have greater success in changing their lives and finding satisfying relationships when they less convinced about everything and are open to surprises and shifts, when they are able to view life as transitory, evolving, rather than bound in concrete.
So, what story will you drop as you step into this new chapter of your life?
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Karen Carnabucci, LCSW, TEP, is an author, trainer and psychotherapist who promotes, practices and teaches experiential methods including psychodrama, Family and Systemic Constellations, mindfulness and Tarot imagery.
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